Surely, as parents we want our daughters to be the apples at the top of the tree; the one’s worth waiting for; the one’s who respect themselves knowing they are worth waiting for. By the same token we want our sons to respect all the young ladies and women in their life, even when those same young ladies or women don’t know how to respect themselves. We want our sons to recognize that the girls and women who reside at the top of the tree are worth working for. When our son was younger we use to tell him AND all his friends that one of their main jobs as young men is to respect the young women in their life, not only because it is the right thing to do but because they may be the only example of what respect looks like.
But, what about the so-called rotten apples on the ground and the boys who go after them? Perhaps the apples on the ground don’t have a positive male voice in their life. Encouraging them, telling them how beautiful they are and that they are the apple of their eye. Maybe the young boys don’t have a positive male influence teaching them to respect ANY young girl or woman regardless of how she see’s herself. This is why my heart breaks while reading the tree. And, what if your son or daughter were friends with the apples on the ground and the boys who go after them? What would your response be? Would you demand that your son or daughter stop being friends with them? Or, would you trust God that he has chosen your child for such a time as this to be a positive role model in the life of one who seems so desperately to need a friend who resides at the top of the tree?
I heard a song today with these words:
“He cries in the corner where nobody sees
He’s the kid with the story no one would believe
He prays every night, “Dear God won’t you please…
Could you send someone here who will love me?”
“Who will love me for me
Not for what I have done or what I will become
Who will love me for me
‘Cause nobody has shown me what love
What love really means.”
You see, everyone just wants to feel loved, even the apples on the ground and the boys who go after them.
You can listen to “Love Me” in its entirety here
Photo credit -richgrad.com. Song credit JJ Heller “Love Me”.