I was boldly outspoken, fiercely independent and dare I say, “my way or the highway,” type of gal.
Growing up in a large first and second generation Italian-American family and the youngest and only girl after four brothers, my parents, specifically my mom, always told me I could be and do anything I set my mind too.
Then I met Jesus. Don’t get me wrong giving my life to Jesus has been the best life event ever. And, that’s just it. In giving my life to Jesus, I gave my life to Jesus. I made a commitment to live my life according to His will.
As women and wives there is the propensity to take offense to Paul’s words that we are to be submissive to our husbands. BUT, when we live our life so tightly connected to Jesus He teaches us true submission is to Him first and submission, Biblical submission, follows in all other areas of our life.
Submission doesn’t mean we lose our voice or become doormats. It doesn’t mean we can no longer be bold. It doesn’t mean we lose the personality God created us with. It simply means we are not to live our life independent of Jesus.
Submission in this verse means under God’s arrangement; submitting to the Lord. When we marry we are no longer a single individual but an individual that has now become a part of a couple. And all decisions we make ought to always include our husband
Whenever I want to have dinner with my girlfriends, buy something not included in our budget or embark on a new endeavor, I always defer to my husband, even though I know he will say, “Yes, I want you to go out with your friends,” or, “please treat yourself!”
I have learned to submit to my husband so consistently that I recognize the value in doing so. God has gifted my husband with a different perspective and insight than me. There have been many times my husbands insight has caused me to re-think a situation and avoid a deep struggle. Life has too many of those to begin with, Amen?
When we choose to submit to Jesus first submitting to our spouse and each other becomes second nature.
And husbands verse 19 instructs you: Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them. Colossians 3:19.
Love and respect. Lets offer that to one another through Jesus and because of Jesus.